oh! there's this question( ..more of a thought actually) that has been on my mind. and i would very much like to share it with you..so that your brains go numb thinking..just like mine ..
its like my version of the holtly debated capitalism( freedom) vs socialism( social interference) that we play in our lives..
we all love our space..dont we? I mean do exactly what we want and when we want! have other people only surfacing in our lives.. No close relationships, no bonding, total freedom! its got this kinda happiness it gives me to be like that sometimes.. not always, but you know, i have those days when i am just me! and i love them more than all the others.
but then, men/women are social animals and there is this another kind of happiness that being with people we love/like gives us..a stability, a constantness in all the storm. We feel safe, taken care of..and its happiness too..a different more subtle one, but happiness it is!
But the problem is, the two dont coexist..if you want your freedom sometimes, most probably you will turn off the chances of close social relations much like capitalism made the US economy go right down before there was a SOCIAList rescue...
and if you are on the social side, you are taken care of and sort of happy always..but never truly free and happy..
I, for one, cant choose either- i love freedom but im human ( read "bonded"). and i find myself bordering on the edges of both....
I cant decide!!!
I know what you are thinking----- a balance..i know that sounds like the panacea...but iv always been an extremist, i dont like taking the middle path..it somehow never is the wilder and tougher path. Besides, why waste your time one way when you like the other better...
And decisions like these are consequential- they shape our person, our lives, us!
So which side are you on? Figured it out yet??
something nice to think about...but the answer is pretty much known...in such theories...extremism never prevails..as u said..Man is a social animal..even happiness loses its charm unless shared..balance as u said..is not something which needs to be achieved in this case...
ReplyDeleteIt all depends upon what do you want from your life. You will have to make sacrifices if you want personal space and freedom and consequently some form of personal achievement. It is sad but all the great scientists and leaders, be it Mahatama Gandhi or Albert Einstein or Isaac Newton or even Godlike figures such as Gautama Budhha and Guru Govind Singh had to make personal sacrifices on their chosen path. A man's life is essentially lonesome as be it at his birth or at the time of his death, he is alone. But it cant be ignored, that our life is because of the many individuals, who have helped us grow from a child to an adult and who somewhat share our feelings. This is the duality of existence, that our life, even though is a cause of lives of many other individuals, but the moments are all ours to live in. However,as i said at the start, there is a certain bit of free will and we have to decide whether this life of ours is better by indulging in sensual pleasures or material gain or by such a pursuit as helping others or even trying to attain nirvana. However there are certain laws we have to abide by for e.g. the law of action and reaction and time is obviously a constraint. A wise person is one who makes his choices in life with an eye on the future and knowing the limitations of his current and coming situation.
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